People leave you. People die or just fade away. The loss can kill you from the inside. I know it’s terrible and I know how it feels to lose someone important. A close friend or a relative. And what scares me the most is the silence. It hurts and it pains me to have no possibility to talk to someone I love, to hear them speak to me or to read them. And I am afraid of the silence that penetrates me. What about you? Can you escape it?
Bad things happen everyday. Thus I am not going to say words like “you have to pull yourself together and keep going” or cry about “how unfair life to us at times”, because this is a well-known truth. Life wasn’t meant to be easy. We’ve grown up and in the adult world full of injustice we are learning to be strong and stoic, to face difficulties with dignity, we are experiencing grief, regret and sorrow, we feel anger and despair. Of course it’s hard, but this is how we know that we are steel alive. It’s better to feel something, anything is better than the time when “empty spaces fill you up with holes”. Don’t you think so?
I am not a psychiatrist; I am just an ordinary person, who knows that advice is easier to give than follow, isn’t it? But come to think about it: life is not yesterday or tomorrow. It is today, it is right here, right now. And when I say this I don’t mean you should just be some aimless person. No. Make plans, think of your future, but don’t forget to live in the present. Don’t forget to enjoy the life. Delight can be found in the tiniest of things: sweets, books, nature, smells, animals, music. It can be anything. How often do you look around on your way back home? Or while walking to the supermarket? Try to look around, try to notice the beauty of a green summer tree or the variety of early autumn colors, breathe in the air after the rain. Don’t like nature? Take a look at people that pass you by, couples holding hands, laughing teenagers, loving mothers and smiling children. All you need is to smile to yourself. Smile to the world. Open up to the world of joy that surrounds you every moment of your existence. Don’t concentrate on the dark side, pay attention to the bright one. If you have some problems do not think about the same very thing over and over again that would not make the situation any better. Try to find a solution, keep calm and give yourself a rest.
And even though you cannot escape the silence, even though you are facing loss, going through hard times just don’t forget to stop, take a deep breath and a good look around.
Also please tell me:
eleenas 